tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805880388705322769.post4780597588168810534..comments2023-11-02T02:27:18.564-07:00Comments on Wave the Stick: Things I'm Learning - AssumptionsAlexishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03848145692193627164noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805880388705322769.post-88567746181228386302011-01-16T08:03:33.547-08:002011-01-16T08:03:33.547-08:00Yesterday at the market I confidently strolled up ...Yesterday at the market I confidently strolled up to the manager and told him I want a table. I am going back to the market only this time I am out of my comfort zone - I used to sell European baked goods with my hubby but now it's photography. Seconds after I secured my table, I begin in two weeks time that nagging self-doubt came back. There was no one there (save my children) who could smile and tell me I made the right decision. All my friends at the market know me as a baker (and they are none too happy I'm not bringing them treats) so they nod and smile but they do not know.<br /><br />Now, every photograph I look at and try to edit I judge as unfit. Etsy is constantly open as I pick out my photos and try not to discard them.<br /><br />Why is it that we (and I mean me) need to judge ourselves? I want my children to be confident. I encourage them at every turn and yet there is a nagging voice in my head saying my actions are stupid, useless. If something goes wrong it is automatically my fault. It is a habit to think this way. <br /><br />It is terrifying to change and I think that frightening aspect needs to be part of it, most of the struggle is just overcoming it.Ms. Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07443994644239363942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805880388705322769.post-27765916529427586672011-01-15T06:38:25.547-08:002011-01-15T06:38:25.547-08:00"We all have those, right? I'm not alone ..."We all have those, right? I'm not alone there? Unexamined assumptions that hold us back."<br /><br />We all have those. Right. You are not alone. And consider Socrates on the subject of the unexamined life. A glimmer of the answer seems to lie in having a perpetual curiosity. About EVERYTHING. And inquiring into EVERYTHING - a task for which the Internet and the internal mirror are aids if not comforts...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5805880388705322769.post-23458974046609991912011-01-14T21:14:13.229-08:002011-01-14T21:14:13.229-08:00That sounds like quite the experience. I can't...That sounds like quite the experience. I can't imagine what it must have been like.<br /><br />And no, you are not the only one with those voices, or those thoughts. I ask myself about 12 times a minute WHO I THINK I AM creating an online course.<br /><br />I'm so glad you shared your post with me. It was great, and you are great, and I think it made a lot of people think.<br /><br />As for how we jolt ourselves out of our everyday way of thinking, I suspect that just becoming aware of it is an excellent start. Seeing the patterns helps us to learn how to unravel them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com